What I learned about how abuse happens in non-monogamy. — It took me three years and a ton of therapy to be able to write what you’re about to read. I’m doing it mostly for the ones who might need it, whether because you’re considering polyamory or some other form of ethical non-monogamy, or because you’re already practicing it, or…

Let me start by saying that BTS is one of my fav things in the whole world and I have been Jimin and Jungkook double biased since the first moment I saw them in the music video for Blood, Sweat and Tears (forever a favorite of mine), so take this…

Picture this: your house is on fire. You feel the excruciating heat. You inhale the smoke. Everything is burning, the flames already licking at your skin. You think you’re about to die. You desperately reach for your pets (you live alone with them) and you run for your life. Someone…

I knew it the first time I slept with you. I had wanted to kiss women before. There was that one time in high school, me and my friend nearly kissed, then she pretended it didn’t happen. She had a boyfriend, I was all need and frustration. Years later, I…

I am an introvert. I love being alone. I love being home. My ideal friday night is pizza and a movie at home, alone with my cat. I don’t go out for drinks, it stresses the hell out of me. I have friends. Few, but great. We gather in our…

There’s a fine line between a partner requesting personal responsibility and manipulation. — ‘Own your feelings’ is a heavily triggering sentence for me. I had it thrown in my face when I was in deep pain. It was a sort of motto in my poly family and something I would go back to when everything else failed. This sentence always felt so wrong…

It hasn’t been this bad in a long time. Last night I didn’t sleep. I’ve had it bad before. I’ve had months of anxiety and depression. I’ve had weeks with fluctuations of anxiety, rising and faling, the usual tides, like waves. There was that time before, during and after the…